DIbalik Kekecewan ada kebahagiaan

DIbalik Kekecewan ada kebahagiaan Pasangan sedang merasa sedih, marah atau kecewa dan Anda merasa senang? Terdengar sangat kejam, tapi begitulah faktanya. Wanita, menurut penelitian, akan merasa bahagia saat pasangannya dalam kondisi kecewa.

Baik kekasih maupun istri, memang cenderung senang ketika pasangannya memperlihatkan emosi negatifnya, berupa kesedihan dan kekecewaan. Itu karena, sebagian besar wanita menganggap kalau diperlihatkannya emosi merupakan pertanda kalau hubungan dalam kondisi sehat.

Hal ini merupakan hasil penelitian yang dilakukan oleh tim dari Universitas Harvard, Amerika Serikat. Juga diketahui, saat seorang pria menyadari pasangannya dalam keadaan marah, wanita juga akan lebih bahagia.

Kondisi tersebut menggambarkan kalau wanita menyukai kondisi di mana pasangannya merasa tidak puas. Itu karena, menunjukkan kuatnya "keterlibatan" atau "investasi" dalam kebersamaan mereka.

"Hal ini konsisten dengan apa yang diketahui soal emosi wanita yang sering mengalami ketidakpuasan ketika pasangannya menghindar atau menarik diri secara emosi ketika menanggapi konflik," kata Dr. Shiri Cohen, kepala penelitian seperti dikutip dari Telegraph.co.uk.

Penelitian yang dipublikasi oleh American Psychological Association ini, melibatkan 156 pasangan heteroseksual. Status hubungan mereka, 56 persen menikah dan sisanya menjalani hubungan berkomitmen.

Selama penelitian, tiap pasangan diminta untuk mendeskripsikan pertengkaran dengan pasangannya dalam kurun waktu dua bulan terakhir yang menyebabkan rasa kesal, frustasi dan mengecewakan.

"Secara keseluruhan, temuan dari studi ini menunjukkan bahwa pria kemungkinan merasa lebih puas dalam hubungan ketika mereka secara akurat dapat membaca emosi positif pasangannya. Sementara, kepuasan hubungan bagi wanita justru ketika secara akurat dapat membaca emosi negatif pasangannya," kata kata Dr. Cohen. DIbalik Kekecewan ada kebahagiaan

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Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesi

Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia  Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia merupakan promosi Yang dilakukan Oleh Minimarket Lokal Terbesar dan Minimarket Pertama Terbaik Indonesia guna untuk menarik Simpati dan Perhatian lebih dari masyarakat untuk menjadi Member Alfamart dan khususnya pecinta Informasi internet dengan menyelenggarakan Promo Indonesia Kontes SEO Alfamart 2012.

Bagi anda yang suka berbelanja tentunya tidak asing lagi dengan minimarket yang satu ini. Sebagai Minimarket Pertama yang memiliki member terbanyak di Indonesia Alfamart memberikan banyak inovasi untuk memanjakan membernya. Salah satunya adalah dengan konsisten 2 minggu sekali  memberikan Promo khusus untuk member-membernya baik untuk berbelanja di Alfamart atau pun di merchant-merchant yang banyak bekerja sama dengan Alfamart untuk memberikan potongan harga atau harga spesial.

Alfamart Minimarket Pertama yang memiliki member terbanyak di Indonesia Alfamart Memberikan Motivasi dan Inspirasi serta Inovasi untuk memanjakan membernya. Salah satunya adalah dengan konsisten 2 minggu sekali  memberikan Promo Indonesia khusus untuk Member Alfamart baik untuk berbelanja di Alfamart Minimarket atau pun di merchant-merchant yang banyak bekerja sama dengan Alfamart Minimarket untuk memberikan potongan harga atau harga spesial.

Member Alfamart Adalah sebutan untuk para pelanggan setia Alfamart.Para member Alfamart akan mendapatkan berbagai macam keuntungan dan kejutan special dari Alfamart seperti: HematKu, Kalender Belanja, Specialku dan Hadiahku,serta program ekslusif lainnya. Member Alfamart adalah pelanggan yang memiliki dan bergabung dalam keanggotaan Kartu AKU, A Card Flazz atau Kartu AKU BNI Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia

KARTU AKU Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia

    Kartu Aku

Adalah kartu member yang pertama kali diluncurkan Alfamart pada tahun 2005. Dengan Kartu AKU, Member akan dapat memperoleh manfaat dan berbagai macam keuntungan serta Promo Indonesia menarik yang tidak dapat diikuti oleh pelanggan lain yang bukan merupakan member Kartu AKU. Kartu AKU berlaku Nasional di Alfamart seluruhIndonesia.

A CARD FINAL Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia
    A Card Flazz

Adalah Kartu Member Alfamart yang di luncurkan pada 15 Mei 2010 bekerja sama dengan Flazz BCA, yang selain berfungsi sebagai kartu member juga dapat digunakan sebagai alat pembayaran/transaksi karena A Card Flazz merupakan Kartu Prepaid (kartu non rekening yang dapat menyimpan uang untuk keperluan berbagai transaksi).

A Card Flazz dapat digunakan sebagai alat pembayaran tidak hanya diseluruh outlet Alfamart, Alfamidi ataupun Alfaexpress tetapi juga diseluruh merchant Flazz antara lain restoran, salon, toko buku, parkir, bioskop dan masih banyak lagi. Untuk sementara ini, A Card Flazz berlaku di Jabodetabek,Surabaya

KARTU AKU BNI Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia
    Kartu Aku BNI

Merupakan salah satu Kartu Member Alfamart yang di luncurkan pada 1 Januari 2010, merupakan kerjasama antara Alfamart dengan Bank BNI. Kartu AKU BNI merupakan kartu multifungsional, yang selain berfungsi sebagai kartu member, juga berfungsi sebagai alat pembayaran. Pengguna Kartu AKU BNI juga akan mendapatkan berbagai keuntungan dan kejutan spesial dari Alfamart serta tentunya dapat mengikuti program-program eksklusif khusus member di Alfamart. Untuk saat ini, Kartu AKU BNI berlaku di Alfamart Jabodetabek.
8 Keuntungan Member Alfamart

   1. Hematku dan Kalender Belanja
   2. Spesialku dan Hadiahku
   3. Special Big Program for "Member Alfamart"
   4. Redemption For "Member Alfamart"
   5. Member Alfamart" Thematic Promo
   6. Special Treatment for "Member Alfamart" Birthday
   7. Special Event/Activities For "Member Alfamart"
   8. Merchant For "Member Alfamart"

 

Demikianlah penjelasan singkat tentang  Promo Member Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia Semoga dapat bermanfaat dan memberikan pengetahuan Lebih kepada masyarakat agar dapat bergabung menjadi Member Alfamart dan pastikan anda mendapakan keuntungan dan manfaat lebih dari Alfamart Minimarket Lokal Terbaik Indonesia

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Selalu Tampil Penuh Daya Pikat

Selalu Tampil Penuh Daya Pikat Ingin mendapatkan cinta baru di hari Valentine dalam hitungan hari? Jangan stres dulu memikirkan siapa yang akan Anda ajak pada perayaan kasih sayang. Anda hanya perlu melakukan jurus-jurus jitu agar tampil menarik.

Apa itu daya tarik? Daya tarik mungkin terkesan misterius dan sulit dimengerti, mengingat kita tidak akan pernah tahu apakah orang-orang yang didekati tertarik pada kita. Bagi para ilmuwan, daya tarik seperti reaksi kimia antara dopamin, serotonin, oksitoksin, dan adrenalin.

Namun, tak perlu susah-susah memikirkan apa daya tarik Anda. Mulailah hari ini dengan bertanya pada diri sendiri, 'Siapa Anda hari ini?' Lalu, lakukan beberapa jurus jitu berikut agar banyak orang yang melirik Anda, seperti dikutip dari Daily Mail.

Senyum

Agar orang-orang menyukai Anda, tunjukkan bahwa Anda menyukai mereka. Anda tidak akan tampil menarik tanpa senyum tersungging di bibir.

Warna pakaian

Para ahli menilai bahwa wanita menyukai pria dalam balutan pakaian berwarna biru yang menandakan kekuatan, keseriusan, dan dapat diandalkan. Sementara itu, pria lebih cenderung memilih wanita yang menggunakan pakaian berwarna pink atau peach yang berarti mudah untuk didekati.

Selalu positif

Baik wanita maupun pria akan tertarik pada orang-orang yang percaya diri, ramah, dan positif. Jadi, selalu ramah terhadap orang lain dan lihat apa yang akan terjadi.

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Perhatikan Anak Cenderung Menyendiri

Perhatikan Anak Cenderung Menyendiri Perhatikan perilaku anak Anda. Jika anak cenderung lebih sering beraktivitas sendirian, asik dengan dunianya tanpa peduli sekelilingnya, ia akan tumbuh dengan minim pengalaman berbagi dan berkomunikasi. Apalagi jika anak diberikan fasilitas yang memisahkan dirinya dari lingkungan, seperti gadget atau permainan elektronik, yang membuatnya merasa lebih senang dengan kesendiriannya. Anak tidak terbiasa belajar berkomunikasi dan berhadapan dengan orang lain.

Psikolog Rustika Thamrin CHt, Cl, MTLT menjelaskan, anak akan kurang pengalaman dan penghayatan bahwa bermain bersama lebih menyenangkan jika dalam kesehariannya cenderung bermain sendiri.

"Jika anak merasa sudah sendiri, ini berbahaya. Hidupnya terbiasa tidak berbagi dan nantinya ia akan merasa kesepian," jelas Rustika,r usai talkshow mengenai kebiasaan berbagi beberapa waktu lalu.

Anak akan merasa kesepian karena tidak terbiasa membangun kebersamaan dengan orang lain. Hal ini bisa terjadi disebabkan anak tak terbiasa bertemu atau berkomunikasi dengan dunia luar selain dirinya. Anak menjadi kikuk saat berhadapan dengan orang lain.

Sebaliknya, anak yang terbiasa bermain bersama dengan orang lain di lingkungannya lebih mudah berkomunikasi. Apalagi jika anak dilatih untuk membangun kebiasaan berbagi kepada orang lain, ia akan lebih mudah berkomunikasi. Komunikasi langsung tatap muka dengan orang lain ini tak bisa menggantikan komunikasi yang dibangun melalui dunia maya, jelas psikolog yang akrab disapa Tika ini.

"Meski anak mahir berkomunikasi melalui jejaring sosial, namun tak sama pengalaman dan kemampuannya ketika berkomunikasi langsung," lanjutnya.

Jika saat ini anak Anda masih terperangkap dengan dunianya sendiri, asik sendiri dengan berbagai fasilitas yang Anda berikan, sebaiknya segera ajak anak berbaur dengan lingkungan. Atau mulailah melatih kebiasaan baru dengan berbagi kepada orang lain yang tidak mampu. Dengan begitu anak terbantu melatih dirinya untuk beradaptasi dan berinteraksi dengan lingkungan di sekitarnya.

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Nutrisi Peningkat Libido

Nutrisi Peningkat Libido Bagaimana jika Anda diberi panduan tentang makanan yang tak hanya lezat, tetapi juga membantu meningkatkan gairah seks? Bagaimana jika Anda diperingatkan untuk menjauhi makanan yang menyebabkan impotensi atau infertilitas?

Sebagai contoh, tubuh yang kekurangan kandungan zinc (seng) akan mengalami masalah ketidaksuburan. Jika Anda mengonsumsi teh atau kopi, Anda harus menyadari fakta bahwa kafein dapat menyebabkan rendahnya dorongan seks. Selain itu, stres dalam pekerjaan juga terbukti memberi kontribusi terhadap penurunan tingkat energi dan minat dalam melakukan hubungan seksual.

Ada sejumlah nutrisi tertentu dalam makanan yang dapat menaikkan libido dan kehidupan fantasi seks Anda. Berikut ini adalah beberapa nutrisi dalam makanan yang dapat meningkatkan gairah seksual Anda dan pasangan:

1. Antioksidan: Antioksidan banyak terkandung dalam buah-buahan dan sayuran segar. Zat ini memberikan perlindungan dari kanker serviks dengan menetralisir radikal bebas yang disintesis tubuh.

2. Vitamin A: Vitamin ini ditemukan dalam wortel, kuning telur, mentega, hati, dan keju. Nutrien ini diperlukan untuk menjaga jaringan epitel (terdiri dari lembaran sel yang menutupi permukaan eksternal tubuh) dari rahim dan vagina supaya selalu dalam kesehatan yang baik.

3. Vitamin B: Wanita yang sedang berusaha hamil harus menjalankan diet yang kaya asam folat dan vitamin B2. Asam folat dapat mencegah anemia pada ibu hamil karena memberi kontribusi untuk sintesis sel-sel darah yang sehat. Sementara vitamin B2 mendukung perkembangan sel-sel darah merah dan antibodi. Hal ini juga mendukung perkembangan janin yang sehat. Sumber asam folat dan vitamin B2 meliputi pisang, daging, telur, hati, ragi roti, bayam, ikan, susu, gandum, kacang, yoghurt, keju cottage, selada, kacang-kacangan, bayam, alpukat, brokoli, dan jeruk.

4. Vitamin C: Vitamin C mempunyai manfaat khusus untuk sistem reproduksi laki-laki dengan meningkatkan kuantitas dan kualitas sperma. Dalam kondisi tertentu yang disebut aglutinasi, sperma tidak dapat mencapai ovum. Vitamin C mencegah terjadinya kondisi seperti itu. Jeruk, blackcurrant, buah kiwi, stroberi, dan paprika adalah sumber makanan kaya vitamin C.

5. Vitamin E: Vitamin ini ditemukan dalam minyak bunga matahari dan beberapa minyak nabati lainnya. Kekurangan vitamin E dapat menyebabkan masalah neuromuskular dan anemia. Makanan yang kaya akan vitamin E di antaranya benih gandum, alpukat, biji, margarin, dan kacang-kacangan.

6. Zinc  (seng) : Zinc sangat penting untuk meningkatkan libido karena mendorong produksi sperma. Tiram merupakan sumber makanan yang kaya akan kandungan zinc (seng). Defisiensi zinc erat kaitannya dengan dorongan seks rendah pada wanita dan jumlah sperma rendah pada pria. Beras merah, kalkun, daging merah tanpa lemak, kerang, dan sayuran berdaun hijau adalah sumber makanan yang mengandung zinc.

7. Selenium: Selenium memfasilitasi produksi ovum dan sperma. Bubur gandum, daging, beras merah, dan jeroan merupakan sumber makanan yang kaya selenium.

8. Fitoestrogen: Zat ini mirip dengan hormon estrogen wanita. Anda dapat menemukannya dalam kacang kedelai dan produk kedelai seperti tahu atau tempe. Fitoestrogen dikenal karena bersifat sebagai pencegah kanker.

9. Asam lemak esensial: Produksi sperma didukung oleh asupan asam lemak esensial seperti asam linoleat. Sumber asam lemak esensial di antaranya kacang-kacangan, bunga matahari, dan minyak nabati lainnya.

10. Mangan: Hormon estrogen pada wanita membutuhkan mangan untuk metabolismenya. Kekurangan mangan dapat menyebabkan kemandulan pada wanita. Anda dapat menemukan jumlah yang cukup mangan dalam makanan seperti gandum, bayam, sereal gandum, kismis, kacang, gandum, nanas, dan teh.

Kita harus belajar tentang korelasi antara makanan dan kesehatan seksual. Jahe, bawang putih, bawang, wortel, ginseng dikenal karena kualitas mereka dalam peningkatan kepuasan seksual. Cara terbaik untuk meningkatkan kesehatan seksual adalah melalui asupan makanan. Jika Anda mengandalkan obat-obatan seperti Viagra atau pil energi lain, pertimbangkan pengaruhnya terhadap perubahan diet normal Anda.

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Personality Histrionics, What's That?

People with histrionic personality behavior characterized the attitude of always trying to draw attention to the environment as much as possible to the satisfaction and comfort yourself with a variety of ways. Which is considered an effective way is to complain of health problems.

Generally histrionic person is intelligent and sophisticated verbalisasinya so easily manipulate the environment. Environment will be assured on the disease he suffered and will provide service, attention and love he wants.

Why did he use a disease? Because of our cultural environment allows people to hide behind the disease for the sake of love, attention, and service. The sick receive the most special place, he can take off the responsibility without any embarrassment, he can also get fruits, food is abundant, and off break from lawsuits, as many instances of sudden illness on high profile prisoners in this beloved country.

Case

I often suddenly attacked feeling weak, helpless, cold sweat, heart pounding, which is usually followed by shortness of breath.

The attack will be followed by anxiety, I even sometimes afraid of dying, Mom. When you've massaged, rubbed oil wind, just delicious and after lying a few hours slowly recovered.

The attack began with a day like this a few months ago when I had diarrhea. I visited several doctors, but doctors found no cause. Clinical laboratory examinations, blood pressure, until an MRI I went through, all the results are good, but I do not heal the disease.

Finally, I referred to a psychiatrist and was given some sedatives. Indeed, the drug makes you sleep better and wake up feeling well for a while, but unexpectedly I was often attacked by the disease.

Today I no longer work because the company that I founded already in the hands of my child. I consult to my mother because I wanted to know what's going on inside me. Similarly, Mrs. K (53) in a tone loud and clear, as well as the physical condition looks solid, fit, can even be said to be obese.

Mr. K (54) add: My wife is actually a strong person, hardworking, and had anticipated a great future. He initiated several efforts for the future of our children and all starts with hard work, self-contained and high ambitions. He succeeded, although often makes children who have run its shuffling rhythm of her work. I admit a few years ago I was a little slip and never just "flirting" with a girl. Thank God not to deep, my wife knows. Indeed there was a commotion, but I promised not to do anymore. Because only a donkey will repeat the mistakes, yes ma'am. I guess this is what started the incident complaints streak disease that my wife have to say. In fact, the results of his physical examination was excellent.

Dynamics pikologis

Mrs. K is intelligent and ambitious high achievers, but the tendency to impose its will very extreme. That is, if Mrs. K has the desire, he will do everything possible to be achieved, any how.

In addition, the need for attention and possessive attitude toward whatever he had, as against the husband, is also very high. For example, after the events of "flirting", when the husband got a job out of town, then with great effort he always managed to get tickets to finally be able to accompany her husband on duty outside the city.

Another thing that then tercermati husband, if because of time urgency and failed to obtain a ticket, Mrs. K will necessarily develop the disease so it seems so miserable and helpless, begging her husband not to be left out of the city since Mrs K feared death when her husband was at home. By reason of the disease attacks the wife, Mr. K asked for permission from the boss is not so out of town.

Analysis

Mrs K histrionic personality. Individual's psychological and physical aspects are closely related and complement each other. That is, if something happens to the psychological aspect, it also affected the physical aspect and vice versa. Fears left behind a husband is a very stimulating effect on psychophysiological functions work so active sweat glands and nerve mobilization work of the heart. Mrs K simultaneously attacked by the complaint above, the cold sweats, increased heartbeat, shortness of breath, and helpless.

Psychophysiological function disorder is a mental function impaired by the effects of a strong desire to always be able to accompany her husband wherever he went and strong desire to impede the departure of her husband by bringing up these physical symptoms.

Mrs. K has a histrionic personality with a tendency to manipulate the environment in order to obtain satisfaction of the need for extra attention from the environment. With high intelligence, Mrs K managed a theatrical behavior (game play). Pain without obvious organic disorders basis it could not aware of Mrs. K, but it is very advantageous because it can force the husband to cancel the trip and accompany him. Especially with the addition of artificial reason, namely fear of death.

Counseling

* Sensitize the psychological dynamics of the basic causes of disease, Mrs. K.

* Facilitate the utilization of the positive potential of Mrs K, as his intelligence and perseverance in the accomplishment of work.

* Increase self confidence and belief in the husband's fidelity.

* Sensitize that run on the disease is not a problem-solving solutions mature and steady, especially when husbands often shy away from out of town will affect the husband's career.

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Blood Type Diet Not Tested

Be careful if you are on a diet based on blood type. Because there are many diets that dealt a lot of people lately, it has not been tested klinis.Menurut Nutritionist, University of Indonesia (UI) Dr. Elvina Karyadi this diet is much debated among scientists because it has not been proven scientifically.

"There has been no scientific studies that show it is safe and effective diet. I do not recommended," said Elvina, after the seminar to prevent vaginal discharge, at Taman Sari Spa, on Tuesday (16 / 9). Indeed, the current diet based on blood type and much discussed in the mailing list of books and a lot of people who claimed success in the diet. However, it turns out this diet has not been proven scientifically.

Elvina says diet can be done by keeping the nutritional intake of food consumed like, avoid eating fried, regulate calorie consumption, and minimizing the consumption of fats and carbohydrates. As for the choice of food consumption can be done with emphasis on eating vegetables and fruits.

In addition, for people who have excess weight need to familiarize yourself to do exercise at least 3 times a week. Exercise can be done in the morning, like a morning walk, sit ups, or go jogging. According to Elvina, thin people also have to sport with equal portions.

"CHAPTER (Toilet Basar) must be at least 1 day. If a difficult bowel movement, do not be too frequently take medication because it can cause intestinal bald," said Elvina.Yang most important, said Elvina, avoid eating at night before bedtime. "Time out should also be quite minimal 6-8 hours a day," Elvina said.

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Blood Type Match Your Personality

Believe it or not, blood type can also affect one's personality. Although you who like to surf the internet may have never read it, there was no harm for us to share info about the blood groups may also not be trusted to a wider audience.

Blood type A
Usually people with blood type A cool-headed, serious, patient and calm or cool, the term is. Assertive character, reliable and trustworthy despite stubborn. Before doing something thought out in advance and carefully planned.

They do everything seriously and consistently, trying to make themselves as natural as possible. They can seem aloof and distant from people. They tried to suppress their feelings and they often do look so tough though actually have a soft side like a nervous and so forth. They tend to be hard on people who do not agree so it tends to be around people who ber'temperamen 'same.

Blood type B
People with blood type B tend to be curious and interested in everything. They also tend to have too much passion and hobby. If you're happy with something they are usually passionate but also get bored quickly. But they can choose which is more important than the many things he did. They tend to want to be number one in many things rather than just be average. But usually they tend to neglect things if focused with another flurry. In other words, they can not do something in unison.

Those from the outside looks bright, cheerful, excited and enthusiastic. But actually it's all completely different from what they have inside. They can be regarded as people who do not want to hang out with people.

Blood type O
People with blood type O is usually instrumental in creating excitement for a group other than creating eharmonisan among the members of the group. Figure they look as people who accept and execute anything calmly.

They are good at covering something that looks always cheerful, peaceful and had no problems at all. But if you can not stand, they will surely find a place or person to vent (the place to complain).

They are usually generous (kindhearted), happy to do good and do not hesitate to spend money on others. They are actually too stubborn, and secretly have their own opinions about things. On the other hand, they are very flexible and receptive to new things.

They tend to be easily influenced by others, so that they see from TV. Looks cool and reliable but often slip and make big mistakes because of lack of caution. But it causes people with blood type O is loved.

Blood type AB
People with blood type AB is a sensitive and tender feelings. They are attentive to the feelings of others and always confront others with care and caution.

In addition, they are tough with yourself, even with those close to him. They're so inclined seem to have two personalities, a sentiment often a person and think of something too deep.
They have lots of friends, but they need time alone to think about their problems.

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Mature personality

Mature personality is a positive label for people who are considered to attain them. Unfortunately, many people never think to be mature. In fact, mature personality is the measure of a healthy personality development.

Mature personality is defined differently by many people. This is reflected in some of the following opinions. Answering questions about the personality of a lecturer in a lecture in a faculty of psychology, there are students who interpret mature personality as a patient, not excessive in expressing emotion, and good at managing relationships with others.

There also are deciphering the ability to solve various problems of life wisely. Some students pointed to the ability to meet the developmental tasks of adulthood well, as has the work and philosophy of life is steady, stable mental condition, and so on.

This paper presents a more complete criteria of a mature personality of an elder who joined pioneering Psychology, namely Gordon W. Allport (1897-1967). Until now, his theories (about the healthy personality) remain relevant.

Here are the seven criteria of Allport about the specific qualities of a healthy personality.
1. Expansion of Personal Feelings
When a person matures, he develops the concerns outside of themselves. Not enough to simply interact with something or someone outside ourselves. More than that, he must have a direct and full participation, which by Allport called "authentic participation".

In Allport's view, the activity performed must be appropriate and important, or really meaningful to the person. If we think it's important work, doing his best work will make us feel good, and means that we become an authentic participant in the work. This will provide satisfaction for ourselves.

People who are more fully involved with various activities, people, or ideas, he is more psychologically healthy. This applies not only to work, but also relationships with family and friends, passion, and membership in a political, religious, and so on.

2. Social relations are Warm
Allport distinguished two kinds of warmth in relationships with others, namely the capacity to develop intimacy and to feel touched. Psychologically healthy people are able to develop intimate relationships with parents, children, spouses, and friends. This is the result of feelings of self-expansion and a growing sense of identity as well.

There is a difference love affair between the neurotic (not cooked) and a healthy personality (mature). People are neurotic need to receive love more than capable of it gives to others. If they give love, it was given with conditions. In fact, the love of a healthy person is unconditional, does not immobilize or bind.

Another type of warmth, the compassion, is the result of an understanding of basic human conditions and feelings of kinship with all nations. Healthy people have the capacity to understand the pain, suffering, fear and failure that is characteristic of human life.

Results from such empathy is the patience of the behavior of others and do not tend to prosecute or punish. Healthy people can accept human weakness, and knowing he also has drawbacks. In contrast, neurotic people can not afford to be patient and understand the universal nature of basic human experiences.

3. Emotional Security
The main quality of a healthy human being is self-acceptance. They accept all aspects of their existence, including weakness, with no surrender passively to these weaknesses. In addition, a healthy personality is not captured by their emotions, and not trying to hide from the emotions. They can control your emotions, so as not to interfere with interpersonal relationships. Control is not the way suppressed, but directed into more constructive channels.

Other qualities of a healthy personality is "looking forward to the disappointment". This shows how a person reacts to pressures and constraints of various desires or whim. They are able to think of different ways to achieve the same goal.

People who are healthy are not free from feelings of insecurity and fear. However, they do not feel threatened and can cope with these feelings is better than the neurotic.

4. Realistic Perceptions
Healthy people view the world objectively. In contrast, neurotic people often understand the reality tailored to your wants, needs, and their own fears. Healthy people do not believe that another person or situation at hand is evil or good according to personal prejudices. They understand the reality as it is.

5. Skills and Tasks
Allport emphasized the importance of work and the need to submerge themselves in the job. We need to have skills that are relevant to our work, and more than it should use the skills that are sincere and full of enthusiasm.

Commitment to healthy or mature person is so strong, so that could drown all ego defenses. Dedication to the work associated with a sense of responsibility and a positive survival.
Work and responsibility to give meaning and sense of continuity to life. May not reach maturity and psychological health without doing an important job and do it with dedication, commitment and skill.

6. Self understanding
Understanding oneself is a difficult task. It requires effort to understand ourselves throughout life objectively. To achieve an adequate understanding of self-understanding is required of him according to actual circumstances. If the figures themselves understood getting closer to the real situation, the individual is increasingly mature.

Likewise, what a person thinks about himself, when the closer (same) with the other people think about him, meaning he has matured. A healthy person is open to the opinions of others in formulating an objective picture of yourself.

People who have self teradap objectivity impossible to project the personal qualities to others (as others negative). He can judge others carefully, and he usually received well by others. He is also able to laugh at themselves through a healthy humor.

7. Philosophy of Life
A healthy person looking forward, driven by long-term goals and plans. He has a sense of purpose, sense of duty to work through to completion as a cornerstone of his life. Allport called impulses such as keterarahan (directness).

Keterarahan that guide all aspects of one's life toward a goal or series, as well as providing a reason for living. We need to pull the remains of a meaningful purpose. Without it we might have personality problems.

Framework of these objectives is the value, which together with the very important purpose in order to develop a philosophy of life. Having strong values ​​is one characteristic of a mature person. Neurotic people have no value or have value that fragmented and temporary, which is not strong enough to unify all aspects of life.

Conscience plays a role in determining the philosophy of life. Allport suggests the difference between a mature conscience with conscience is not ripe. Are not mature, his conscience as in childhood: and slavishly obedient, full of prohibitions and restrictions, are characterized by feelings of "should".

People who do not mature to say, "I have to behave like this." Conversely, a mature man said, "I should behave like this." A mature conscience is a sense of obligation and responsibility to themselves and others, and may be rooted in religious values ​​or ethical.

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Through Personality Appearances

Parents taught us not to judge someone based on appearance alone, especially when first met. However, recent studies have surprisingly shown, it is often the first impression right.

More than 100 students of University of Texas was involved in research on personality assessment based on appearance. The students acted as subjects or as a juror rater. As jurors, they were asked to assess someone's personality from a photograph.

Here's how research is conducted. First, respondents were asked to pose stiffly, staring into the camera, not smiling, legs pressed together and hands at your sides. After that, they were asked to pose again, this time by natural and spontaneous. Then the respondents were asked to fill out questionnaires about their personalities. The colleagues they were also asked to mention personality traits of the respondents.

After that, the judges evaluate the personality of the subject being photographed. Apparently upon seeing the first photograph, the jury was able to accurately assess the character of the subject, that is extrovert, confident, or a religious person. Then when viewing pictures with natural poses, the majority of the jury to assess appropriately the subject's personality.

"Since old people often make judgments based on minimal information. However, the results of this study we can say that first impressions are indeed emit a person's character, even just by looking at his picture," says Sam Gosling, a researcher from the University of Texas.

Gosling added, people are extrovert or an open personality tend to smile more, stand with energetic, healthy looking, sleek, and stylish. Gosling concludes, our personalities may be read from the appearance and expression. Then maybe we should judge a book by its cover.

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personality through Coffee

A cup of coffee is not just froth and sugar that settles at the bottom. Character and personality is reflected in there you can. Two body language experts from Australia, Judi James, and James Moore, claim that one's taste and choice of coffee can actually contain a specific meaning.

According to them, taste caffeine can reveal many things, such as confidence, stress levels, and even sex life. Here is the description as tercukil in the book The Code You.

Drinker "espresso": Those who love this coffee tends moody, brave, and hardworking. They also like to be a leader and pursue goals. They could be a partner with experience and fun, but his loyalty is not necessarily reliable.

Drinker "black coffee": A type of person is really minimalist and without ornamentation. She applied the direct approach in his life. Coffee drinkers can be quiet and moody, but sometimes can also be very open to others.

Drinker "latte": Typically, they are metrosexual. Latte drinker wants to please others and are eager to be liked. By choosing the dark and dangerous drinks then turn them into cozy mixed milk drinks, James and Moore said that the latte drinkers admit that they have the immaturity even want to advance as a challenger.

Drinker "cappuccino": As they drink, cappuccino fans are not important as froth and bubble, bored with the details, but not obsessed with material things. Cappuccino drinkers enjoy sex, but easily bored with a partner who is less imaginative.

Drinker "instant coffee": They are a fun type of person, directly to the destination, love to laugh, and live with the slogan "If it is not broke, do not be repaired". Instant coffee drinkers may have only a flat career only and should see other people to look into what is hidden in their personality. It is not nonsense of instant coffee drinkers are allergic to pretend behavior and they continue to wear socks while having sex. "

Drinkers' decaf soy milk ": They're the type who wants self-righteous, self-care environment, attention seeker with a tendency to be picky, fussy, and easily repulsed. Moreover, it implies a false choice arrogance, high-maintenance types who long for something that they can not get and felt unsure of their true personalities.

Drinker "frappuccino": No frivolous and superficial, frappuccino drinkers will try anything once, especially if a celebrity is more used to do. They were happy to position itself as a trend setter, but they give the impression that they are someone who is more concerned with style rather than the substantial relationship romance frappuccino drinkers often lasting as their tastes.

Do not like coffee: Unfortunately, the decision was not good. According to James and Moore, afraid to drink coffee together with the fear of life. If the taste of coffee makes you scared, then you are really a childish, and it's time to join the world that continues to grow!

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